1 Timothy 3:12 – A Deacon’s Standards

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A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well. 

Summary: Once more, Paul circles back to his guiding principles for church leadership.   

Does this passage sound familiar? Let’s compare it to what Paul wrote about overseers: 

“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, … must manage his own family well…” (1 Timothy 3:2-4)

Almost identical! 

Both the overseer and the deacon must be temperate and self-controlled, avoiding violence in their words and actions, and be spiritually minded, not pursuing material gain. 

Because the two job descriptions are similar, it might be helpful to focus on the differences between them, instead of what is the same. 

The overseer must not be a recent convert. That suggests to me that they are well established in the faith. Deacons, however, must be “tested” (v 10), suggesting a different means of determining their understanding of spiritual matters. 

The other two requirements given for overseers, but not deacons, are being hospitable and being able to teach. 

Paul’s point is well made. Both overseers and deacons are required to meet specific standards. Interestingly, Paul’s standards are practical applications of the “fruit of the Spirit” he lists in Galatians 5:22-23. 

The real difference is that overseers carry additional public and leadership-oriented skills. These include teaching, hospitality, and a good reputation among outsiders (v 7). The deacon, on the other hand, is the faithful steward. If they teach, it is by example. Their hospitality is in their service. 

Application: For those who are overseers and deacons, hold fast to these principles. For other believers, strive to achieve the same.  

Food for Thought: When Paul mentions a leader must “manage his children well,” what kind of children is he talking about — young ones or older? Does it matter? 

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1 Timothy 3:11 – Respect

In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.

Summary: Paul’s words for women are remarkably similar to the instructions he has for men.   

Who writes a book that takes over fifteen hundred years to complete? Someone who lives a long time, that’s who. 

And whose lifespan is greater than fifteen centuries? There is only one that we know of … God. 

The Creator of all that exists existed before his creation was formed. He has existed throughout the history of the creation. He will exist long after the creation is no more. This is the author of the Bible — someone who has literally seen everything. 

God knows us better than we know ourselves. After all, he made us:

“So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27). 

We like to think of ourselves as individuals who get married, but in reality, we are two halves that come together to become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). 

If God treats men and women differently, it is because he made them that way. He doesn’t love one more than the other because they are two parts of a whole. 

In this passage, Paul begins with “In the same way…” again. In the same way that overseers are to be worthy of full respect (1 Timothy 3:4), deacons are to be worthy of respect. In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect (1 Timothy 3:8); women are to be worthy of respect. 

Do you see the pattern? 

God wants us, his creation, to be worthy of respect. 

Notice that he doesn’t say we deserve respect simply because we are his creation. To the contrary, we can act in ways that bring shame instead of respect. 

As Christians, we have the whole of the Old Testament to read and study so that we can better understand God’s will for us. We also have his Word given through Apostles like Paul. 

“In the same way [as men], the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.”

As believers, we are all part of God’s family. As our Father, God wants us to be worthy of respect. 

Application: Study God’s Word constantly.  

Food for Thought: Who does it benefit when men and women disrespect each other? 

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1 Timothy 3:10 – The Test

They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons.

Summary: It turns out that testing deacons is very similar to testing overseers. They have a lot in common.   

This is an intriguing passage! How do you “test” someone who aspires to be a deacon? 

In verse eight, Paul moves from his instructions about overseers into a discussion about deacons. He begins with the words, “In the same way…”

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1 Timothy 3:9 – The Eyes of Faith

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They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. 

Summary: Paul’s reference to the “deep truths of the faith” and a “clear conscience” point to things that only the eyes of faith can see. 

When we read Paul’s words, we are always looking through the lens of the translators who make it possible for us to read the Bible in English. Translating from Greek is not an easy task, and translators sometimes have to make hard choices when selecting their words. 

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1 Timothy 3:8 – Deacons

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In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain. 

Summary: Paul’s introduction to the work of a deacon leads us to wonder, “What is a deacon, anyway?”   

When Paul begins with “In the same way…” he means in the same way overseers are worthy of respect (1 Timothy 3:4), deacons should be worthy of respect. 

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1 Timothy 3:7 – The Heart of God’s Word

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He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.

Summary: Paul’s instruction about having a good reputation with outsiders is a key diagnostic tool for determining someone’s fitness for serving as an overseer.  

This verse goes to the heart of the entire Bible. 

In this passage, Paul refers to “outsiders.” This is important! Who are they and what are they? 

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1 Timothy 3:5 – A Better Overseer

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At the Last Supper, Jesus washes the feet of his disciples as he embodies the perfect overseer.

If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?

Summary: Paul’s question is important. How we understand his words could mean the difference between a happy church and a broken one.    

I know that our last meditation, “A Portrait of Faith,” discussed the need for an overseer to manage his family well, but this verse is different. In this passage, Paul poses an important question: 

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1 Timothy 3:4 – A Portrait of Faith

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He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. 

Summary: Paul’s summary of a godly family provides us with both a guide and a diagnostic tool.  

We have already talked about what it means for an overseer to be faithful to his wife (v 2). So let’s add this to our second category of traits in the overseer job description: “Family.”

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1 Timothy 3:2c – Temperament 

Now the overseer is to be … temperate…

Summary: As we continue examining Paul’s criteria for an overseer, we discover that there is a method to Paul’s list of things to look for in an overseer.   

The next word in Paul’s job description for an overseer is “temperate.” 

To be more accurate, the English translation in the NIV uses the word “temperate” for the word Paul used, which is “nēpháleos.” “Nēpháleos” is a Greek word that means “sober” in the sense of being circumspect.* However, it can also mean “abstaining from wine,” or at least from its “immoderate use.”†

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