1 Timothy 5:9-10 – Brass Tacks

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No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over sixty, has been faithful to her husband, and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.

Summary: This is a long passage, but worth looking at as a whole. In it, Paul lays out very specific requirements for a widow to qualify for support from the church.   

In this passage, Paul gets down to what used to be called “the brass tacks.” 

Apparently, nobody really knows where this saying comes from. Some think it originated in a furniture shop because brass tacks were used to install the final upholstery. Others say that the saying might have come from the shop that sold the fabric used for upholstery. Brass tacks were used to mark yards of fabric. In both cases, getting down to ‘brass tacks’ meant getting down to business, to the final details of a business transaction. 

So let’s get down to business. 

If a widow is going to be supported by the church body, then certain conditions have to be met. Here are Paul’s rules: 

1. The widow has to be over sixty years old. 

2. She has to have been faithful to her husband. 

3. She has a reputation for doing good deeds:

As to what constitutes “good deeds,” Paul has a very specific list:  She has raised children, shown hospitality, washed the feet of the Lord’s people, and helped those in trouble. 

We might well wonder how many widows actually met these stringent requirements! 

Does Paul, and by extension Jesus, really expect women who are widows to live up to all these rules? 

The short answer is, “No.” As we will see in the next few verses, Paul is a realist. He knows people and knows our “flesh” nature is a cruel master (Romans 7:14-25). The important thing to remember is the reason for the rules; people come to the church asking for help. When the church body takes on the responsibility for providing for someone long-term, that is a big commitment. 

It seems logical that Paul and Jesus would want to protect the church from making a commitment it cannot keep. If the church were to break its pledge to help someone, that would bring disgrace on the church and on God. 

Ultimately, Paul’s rules are reasonable when it comes to the church making long-term financial commitments. 

Application: Consider Paul’s “rules” as a model for church benevolence.  

Food for Thought: What happens if Paul’s rules are not followed, and people who are not as devoted to Christ are given church money long-term? 

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1 Timothy 5:8 – Loving God

The words "Do you care?" are in white letters against a blurred background of a country lane. (Grok)

Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Summary: Once again, Paul’s words challenge traditional thinking about what it means to be saved.  

Once again, Paul’s words challenge us to question how we think about our relationship with God. 

Some people I have known have a tendency to judge others based on their own ideas of what is right and wrong. If you do what they think is ‘right,’ then you are a ‘good person.’ If, on the other hand, you do or say what they don’t agree with, then you are a ‘bad person.’ 

What defines ‘good’ or ‘bad’ is up for grabs. Some might question your morality if you don’t share their love of sports or engage in the same pastimes. Groups of people who think the same way form into cliques or gangs. Tribalism replaces individuality, and agreement replaces thinking. 

When we open the Bible and read it, we expose ourselves to an entirely different way of thinking. 

Instead of being centered on what we think is ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ the Bible is centered around God’s point of view. God has ideas on what is ‘good’ and ‘bad’ just like we do. The difference is that God’s views matter more than ours. He is, after all, God. 

In our passage for this meditation, God uses Paul’s words to give us a peek into his value system.

“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8)

Back in 1 Timothy 4:10, Paul writes that the “living God” is “… the Savior of all people, and especially of those who believe.

It seems clear, from Paul’s own words, that God can save people who are not believers. Some of us will bridle at the thought of God saving unbelievers, while others might find that the most reasonable statement in the world. The fact is that God’s Word is rather clear on this point. 

Now, in the passage we are looking at, Paul goes one step further; he implies that unbelievers are worse than believers. Then, he states that people who do not provide for their own relatives are “worse than an unbeliever.” 

He doesn’t say that they are condemned to hell, but he does suggest that they are lacking in some way. 

Which brings up the question: Do you care what God thinks of you?  

Application: Love God above all else, and strive to please him.  

Food for Thought: Why do you think it is important to please God, or is it?

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1 Timothy 5:5 – Real Need

Older women in a lineup. (Grok)

The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help.

Summary: Paul is giving instructions to Timothy regarding a special case of giving — making a commitment to support someone for the rest of their life.   

In this passage, Paul gives us three tests to be used in determining who is “really in need.” Remember, we are not talking about a one-time handout. A ‘widow in need’ needs help for the rest of her life. That is a big commitment and one worthy of caution before making it. 

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1 Timothy 5:4 – True Religion

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But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. 

Summary: True religion begins at home.   

Caring for family is one of the great blessings of life. It is also one of the great challenges! Interestingly, putting our religion into practice is a very similar challenge. 

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1 Timothy 5:2a – In Search of Purity

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…older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.

Summary: Paul’s words challenge men to treat women with purity, echoing the words of the Old Testament laws.  

Paul’s instructions to Timothy provide clear guidance on how to treat people. Not only people in church, but all people. In this passage, Paul once again instructs Timothy about those older and younger than he is. This time, the focus is on women. 

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1 Timothy 5:1b – Little Brother

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Treat younger men as brothers…

Summary: Paul’s instruction to Timothy about younger men is part of our Lord’s plan for setting things right in the world.   

Life is hard without Jesus. 

I remember, when I was very young, hearing someone say, “Too bad life doesn’t come with an instruction manual!” It was a comment that seemed to capture all the confusion of life’s many decisions and turning points. 

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1 Timothy 5:1a – For Father’s Sake

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Job and his friends, Doré’s English Bible, Public Domain

Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father.

Summary: Paul gives Timothy specific instructions for correcting the behavior of older men.   

Old men hate to be rebuked, especially “harshly”!

Let’s face it, “old men” have been around for a while. They know things. Even if the things they know are not useful anymore, they still know things simply because they have survived as long as they have. 

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